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Finally, my surgery date is set!

I wasn’t entirely sure until I finished up my pre-op appointment and got through the phone consultation on Wednesday. Prior to the phone consultation, I was constantly worrying about whether or not the hospital would call the right phone number. They had both my home and cell phone on file, but for some reason, they were calling the home number to confirm the appointment. I had an appointment at the clinic on the same day, so there was no way I’d get home in time for a phone call. For a few weeks, I followed up with the clinic and the folks in Prepare to make sure the right number was on file. Even after having the final surgery date set after the run-arounds in October and November, I wasn’t 100% sure. The scheduler kept changing, so I didn’t even know WHO to talk to when I called in. Ugh.

So imagine my relief when everything was set on Wednesday. Just so glad this part is over – the administrative part!

I have a few straggling appointments to tend to this week – orthodontist and dentist. A week and a half later, I’ll be rolling into surgery. After a little research online for what to expect post-op, I have a feeling that I won’t be sociable for at least the first week. I’ll look hideous with balloon lips and a lot of bruising. I’ll be drooling all over the place because I won’t be able to control my face below my eyes. My metabolism will reverse because my body will start eating away at itself since we probably weren’t made for a liquid diet.

So basically, I’ll be miserable.

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I have another week of work, and then it’s mandatory vacation. Of course, since I’m still on contract, it won’t be a paid holiday. Oh well!

We don’t really do anything at our house like put up a tree or line the windows with holiday lights because we are too lazy to take it all down. The parents aren’t into gift exchanges, so we aren’t really either. To get into the spirit of things, I’ve been doing a lot of celebrating/gathering/decorating elsewhere.

Several nights ago, RV and I went over to his mother’s place to put up decorations and trim the tree. She’s having an early Christmas party because she’ll be out of town on the actual day. RV will be at his dad’s, so I’ll take every opportunity to get a peek at any presents he’s giving me. We’ll be opening gifts on Sunday!

Last night, a bunch of us gathered at Keane’s [the place I helped to decorate last week] place to wrap presents and gift each other with “not useful to ourselves, but useful to others” presents. Most of us are not of the gift-giving variety [except to maybe significant others and siblings], so it was our little way of gathering and stacking a ton of presents under the tree regardless of whether the presents were for ourselves or just regifting of old items. Add some small bites, cider+rum, some good wine, and a movie or two, and you’ve got a fantastic night with friends and gift wrap!

I also got to open up one of my gifts [apparently there are a few more!], which is the namesake of this entry. RV got me purple pens. What is the significance of purple pens?

I’m a fan of surprises, but I am not the most patient person, so if you tell me you are giving me something, I will do all that I can to squeeze that information out of you. A month or so ago, the sister bought a present for me. I kept asking her over and over about the present, and she finally gave in and told me that she had bought purple pens. That was her default answer, even though the present was not actually a purple pen.

So purple pens last night – hilarious. And it appears that I’ll never be able to get RV or the sister to open up their lips when it comes to presents! *shake fist*

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I was on one of my anti-social trends this week, and I used RV being out of town and me wanting to save money as an excuse. Last night, with a little bit of prodding, I was out and about with a dear friend [Hi Keane!], doing what we do best – crashing ["networking at"] tech parties! He’s in the social media industry AND was invited, so not technically crashing.

It was not too far away [ideal because the weather in SF has not been friendly lately] and a lot of fun. We caught up with a few people I hadn’t seen in awhile. At the end of the night, we threw up his Christmas decorations under the influence of drinks and amusement.

Good times.

Last weekend, we drove down to Carmel Valley to see Melanie and her choir, The Choral Project, sing. We followed the lovely performance with an equally awesome dinner with friends at Passionfish. Of course, some time during that weekend, I volunteered at the SPCA. A few of the dogs that’d been there for awhile have been adopted, which is awesome. I’m skipping out this weekend because I’ll be in LA.

Tonight, I’m hopping on a plane to join RV there. We’re staying with Jen and Alex in their new-to-us apartment that they were in the process of moving into the last time we were down there. Not sure what the plans are for this trip (other than a fabulous wine and cheese party at Amanda’s), but it’s always fun to head out of the city and see some friends down south. We might stop by Pasadena since I’ve always found it a lovely place. It’s sure to be decked out in holiday spirit.

(Parts of this entry were updated using the Wordpress app for the iPhone, and some were updated while on Virgin’s free wifi, courtesy of Google – just sayin’!)

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I’ve been waiting to post about this, thinking that the issue would just go away. It hasn’t. So any advice is appreciated.

About a month and a half ago, a former coworker of mine [not even that close to her] came to me with a request for a place to crash because she was physically abused at home. Since I don’t have my own place, I couldn’t offer her a place to stay, and so I asked a friend of mine for a favor. Thinking that it would be a short-term situation, he agreed and let her crash at his place.

Fast forward to a month and a half later, she is still there. I think what bothers me most is that we were miscommunicated to. A place to crash does not equate to a place of transition for when you don’t have a job or apartment, and you don’t want to go home to your family who lives an hour or two away. I don’t know how long it takes to get back on your feet, but you do not do it at someone else’s expense, especially someone you do not know. I feel like she’s taking advantage of our kindness, and I am surprised that there’s nowhere else for her to go. He’s refused money that she’s offered him since it’s not about the money. It’s about getting back on one’s feet and not using someone else as a crutch.

And of course, now I feel like a shitty friend for putting him in this situation. I’ve told her already that she needs to get out of there [hinted at first, but straight out said it later], but a week later, she is still there. I’ve sent names of recruiters, sent her name to recruiters, and also forwarded apartment listings.

Not okay.

I’m beginning to suspect that she asked me out of last resort since I wasn’t even that close to her. Perhaps she’s abused the kindness of her own friends or don’t wish to tell them what’s really going on, but it’s gone on for too long. If anything, I feel bad for having put my friend in the awkward position of trying to get someone to leave.

What to do?! I’m not naming names, so as to not embarrass the persons involved, but SERIOUSLY. This infuriates me. Try to do something nice for someone, and they take it too far.

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Free Will Astrology for the week: It seems to me that in 2009 you’ve learned to love the fact that all the world’s a stage. You’ve found roles that have been fun to play, and you’ve expressed yourself with the nuanced zeal of a skilled actor in an elaborate theatrical production. I have very much enjoyed seeing you reveal the full range of your inner riches. If I were going to award Oscars to the astrological signs, you Libras would get the prize for “Best Performance of One’s True Self.”

I’m amazed at how quickly time has flown. Another year marked, and I’m a little step closer to whenever the end might be. Last Christmas, I tagged along with RV to Southern California to visit his mother’s side of the family. This year, he’s heading up to see his father, and I’ll probably be at home or find some friends to hang out with. In the meantime, lots of holiday-themed gatherings to attend!

Monday was the holiday party for Yelp. I had my hair curled and make-up done on the spot. Thank goodness because I never know how to pair the rest of myself up with the nice dresses that I buy. I clean up alright, yeah?

As I said, lots of events planned for the next few weeks. All the while, looking forward to jaw surgery and hoping that my three months of work will have paid off, and I secure a permanent position.

*fingers crossed*

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